Wednesday, May 2, 2012

How often do we say thank you?

How often do we say thank you? What I am referring to is a thank you for the results the person achieved for the organisation, not a thank you for the benefits the person brought you, not a thank you for a project someone has done.

Instead, a thank you for the effort, commitment, time and heart the person has put in? Be it to help you with the dishes, to complete a huge project, to drive you or to teach you something.

Often, we tie effort with results. We only remember to thank someone when results have been achieved. Remember, for many, although results are not achieved, although they may do things differently from the way you would, they deserve to be appreciated.

They deserve to be appreciated and thanked because they've sincerely and wholeheartedly devoted some time for someone other than themselves. They've truly put in effort, and for most, they've really tried their best to make things work, even if it doesn't work all the time. But they still need a thank you.

Have you said hello or thank you to the bus driver? I realised that when you do that, you don't only brighten up the bus driver's day, you brighten your own day too. Have you said thank you to a close girlfriend for talking to you? Saying a thank you would make her feel like she's helped you feel better. Have you thanked your mommy and daddy for working so hard to bring you up? Telling them that would make them feel that all was worth it.

A thank you is like a smile, it can bridge a lot of gaps and distances between people. :)

//edit: So i went on to thank someone, and her (:D) has made my day, because I've never seen her post that expression on facebook before.


8:12 PM

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

The little monster screams

I'm sitting here, thinking that I really like it here. Yet, when I hear people (Singaporeans) complaining about Singapore, there's still that little monster that creeps up in me, and that little monster is so tempting me to scream at them to appreciate what Singapore has for us.

Yes, Singapore is a little small so we tend to be short of vast green land with sheep and horses roaming on it. We are mountain tortoises stuck on the little red dot that think the yellow flowers on the canola field are kailan. We put our files out when it snows to catch a snowflake that we've never seen.

I like it here because it's peaceful. It gives me a sense of solitude, but not loneliness. It gives me time to slow down, to look at the scenery, to gasp at the wonders of nature and to think-- the world is really a wonderful place.

But, I'm still thankful for all that Singapore has for me. SMRT breakdowns hit the headlines and we complain. Dear Singaporeans, in your x years of living in Singapore, have you ever been caught in a train delay? I have, twice, but it was not because of technical breakdowns. It was because a Mercedes rammed up the train track once, and another committed suicide.

24hour clinics will always be there for me when I feel sick and am down with a gastric flu at 2am. If i do need a cup of hot chocolate, or crave so badly for shin ramyun during my late night mugging,  a 6 minute walk in the brightly lit streets brings me to a 7-11. I eat at kopitiams with my wallet on the table like it's tissue paper, I trot around happily in my high heels because the ground is flat and easy to walk on. I don't have much to worry about my education, because I know the government puts her people's education as a priority. I take the bus+train from one end of Singapore to the other end for at most 3 dollars.

I'm not implying that we don't need any improvements. Honestly, we do. We need a more gracious society, one that says thank you to strangers who help us in our daily commute and meals, one that gives up seats to people who need it more, one that is more appreciative towards what we have. We need other things. However, still, I'm thankful for what I have in Singapore.


9:27 PM

Monday, April 23, 2012

Simple joy

I learnt the true meaning of instant gratification over the weekend. I've always thought that I could work for  a long long time, work through all the challenges and finally, come upon a form of gratification that would put a smile on my face, a gratification that told me whatever the past was for was worthwhile. 

Over the years I've been too distant from doing things on the ground. So distant that I forget the smile on people's faces. So distant that "thank yous" have become a scarce resource that would have replenished me in many ways. Then, I find myself so tired, so exhausted, because the 'big picture' is always so distant from me.

Yet, over the weekend, I did something so simple. and I was so happy. Because I saw how my effort has paid off, in terms of smiles, in terms of thank yous, and in terms of warmth. 


7:24 PM

Thursday, March 1, 2012

Falling in love with the soil

Now i know what it means to fall in love with the breath of fresh air, the soil, the hopping squirrels, the grazing sheep, the cities, the sky, the wind, the everything of a city. Can't wait to see more and love more.


7:27 AM

Tuesday, December 13, 2011


at this point in time, there is no peace in me. can't you just be a little more understanding?


12:11 AM

Sunday, December 11, 2011


期望就是失望的开始。很可惜也可喜的,我总是老学不会。一而再,再而三地上这堂客,不止没学到东西,反而变得厌倦、更厌倦。每当痴痴地以为还有相信地理由,到头来才发现,其是一开始根本就没有。老是喜欢报着期望,最后跌地落花流水,反而被责怪是我在发小姐脾气。好累,好累。我不要期待了,也许这样才会懂地知足。这样,还有意义吗?


9:35 PM

Monday, November 28, 2011


人与人之间的许许多多,令我感觉有点厌倦了。为何不能简单一点呢?


11:44 PM

Saturday, November 19, 2011

Talking

Talking to people is so therapeutic isn't it? Especially when you talk to people whom you're so close to, people who can relate with you, people who can comfort you. It feels so nice.

Knowing that you were there for someone important to you at the lowest points of their lives feels good too, isn't it? For the joy that the person has survived it, for the joy that you were trusted, that you are now closer to the person, for the joy that you learn from it as well. At that point in time, the immense amount of loving-kindness and compassion that arises in you is comforting and motivating in itself.

Most of us have people in our lives who constantly look towards us when they need a talking companion. How can we ever reject them? We don't; because we love them in one way or another.

But what happens when, at a point, there are too many people who look towards us when they need a talking companion. They're quick to pour all their sorrows out to us; and we're kinda expected to reciprocate with some sort of solution. At least, we expect ourselves to reciprocate with some kind of solution-- which we cannot always do. And then we dwell on this matter, we think about it, we make others' problems ours.

I guess I got to learn to empathize, but not make it my problem. I'm still learning, so give me some time while my energy gets repleted, for now. Just for now.


10:52 PM

Friday, September 9, 2011

Closing Time

I know who I want to take me home,
I know who I want to take me home,
I know who I want to take me home,
Take me home

Been pondering on a topic for almost a year, took a lot of courage to share it.


9:59 PM

I'm not crazy

All day staring at the ceiling
Making friends with shadows on my wall
All night hearing voices telling me that
I should get some sleep
Because tomorrow might be good


9:58 PM

Bed of Lies

No I would not sleep in this bed of lies
So toss me out and turn in
And there'll be no rest for these tired eyes
I'm marking it down to learning
I am

Don't think that I can take another empty moment
Don't think that I can fake another hollow smile
It's not enough just to be sorry
Don't think that I could take another talk about it

Just like me you got needs
And they're only a whisper away
And we softly surrender
To these lives that we've tendered away

No I would not sleep in this bed of lies
So toss me out and turn in
And there'll be no rest for these tired eyes
I'm marking it down to learning
I am

Don't wanna be the one who turns the whole thing over
Don't wanna be somewhere where I just don't belong
Where it's not enough just be sorry

Don't you know I feel the darkness closing in
Tried to be more than me
And I gave till it all went away
And we've only surrendered
To the worst part of these winters we've made

No I would not sleep in this bed of lies
So toss me out and turn in
And there'll be no rest for these tired eyes
I'm marking it down to learning
I am

I am all that I'll ever be
When you - lay your hands
Over me but don't go weak on me now
I know that it's weak
But God help me I need this

I will not sleep in this bed of lies
So toss me out and turn in
And there'll be no rest for these tired eyes
I'm marking it down to learning
I'm marking it down to learning
'Cause I am


9:49 PM

Sunday, August 21, 2011


The sky is the limit
And I just wanna flow
Free as a spirit on a journey of hope
Cut the strings and let me go
I'm weightless, I'm weightless
Millions of balloons heading to the ground
Weight of the world tries to hold us down
Cut the strings and let me go
I'm weightless, I'm weightless,
I'm weightless, I'm weightless...


3:57 PM


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