I know I'm flooding my blog a tad too much but there's a lot of thinking going on in my head currently.

Tit: What's wrong with these people?
Tat: nothing unexpected
Tit: huh?
Tat:What's wrong with you?
Tit: huh?
Tat: Why expect people to be perfect?

Personally, I feel that many relationships and friendships fall apart because expectations set are not fulfilled.

Girl: Why are you talking so much to that girl?
Boy: Why can't I? She's just a normal friend to me.
Girl: Because you're my boyfriend.

Because the other party is your special someone, you expect him or her to understand your own expectations and idiosyncrasies, you make assumptions that he/she should know what you want him to be like. But does he? Probably not unless you've talked it out with him/her- amicably.

You expect him to send you home everynight and you're upset by the fact that he doesn't. Does he know it? Maybe to him, since you can go home by yourself when you didn't have a boyfriend, why is it necessary that he accompanies you all the way home- especially when it's super out of the way?

Because the person is your best friend, you expect him to be there for you whenever you are upset, regardless of what he was doing. Does he know? Maybe he had expected that you'd be more understanding. So many expectations that are not communicated, leading to even more unhappiness.

When your do not get fulfilled, that is when we feel the unhappiness come in.
It's just like our cravings, we hope to get something and when we don't, we feel upset by it, hence introducing suffering into our daily lives.

Sometimes we should learn not to expect and be contented with what there is. At other times, it could be necessary to set expectations, especially for work, so that there is a common goal that will help to facilitate. And maybe we should understand each other's expectations so that we can let them know its feasibility- so that we dont expect so much of one another.

Talk about it to your friends, your girl/boyfriends. To me, I think it helps =D

Tit: I dont have enough strength or patience!
Tat: Why not train your strength and patience?
Tit:I don't have enough strength or patience!

To cultivate, we have to make do with what we have and begin somewhere.
Same with doing work. Many a times we find ourselves lost at "Where should I start at?"
Anywhere is good, anywhere. Check this out

Liza: Henry! Fetch me some water!
Henry: There's a hole in my bucket dear Liza, dear Liza.
There's a hole in my bucket dear Liza, a hole.
Liza: Well, fix it dear Henry, dear Henry, dear Henry, Well, fix it dear Henry, dear Henry, fix it.
Henry: With what shall I fix it?
Liza: With a straw dear Henry.
Henry: The straw is too long
Liza: Well, cut it dear Henry
Henry: With what shall I cut it?
Liza: With an axe dear Henry
Henry: The axe is too dull dear Liza
Liza: Well, sharpen it dear Henry
Henry: With what shall I sharpen it?
Liza: With a stone dear Henry
Henry: The stone is too dry dear Liza
Liza: Well, wet it dear Henry
Henry: With what shall I wet it?
Liza: With water dear Henry
Henry: In what shall I fetch it?
Liza: In a bucket dear Henry
Henry: There's a hole in my bucket dear Liza, dear Liza.
There's a hole in my bucket dear Liza, a hole